I’m not really sure how to say this, but here it goes. As much as we fantasize being “the farmer’s wife” reality tends to hit and sometimes it hits vary hard after the wedding. Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband. He is my best friend. Our marriage and our family is my top priority. If I’m going to be honest though, sometimes I struggle with this lifestyle. Because the farm is our only income, the farm has to be my husband’s top priority.
I did not want to start this blog. I felt like the things I knew I needed to say, I didn’t want to say… much less have it on the internet for everyone to read… But I felt vary strongly that these issues need to be addressed. For the sake of all of our marriages and families, these issues NEED to be talked about. I came from a long line of farm families on both sides. It was never my intentions to farm, actually in the first 10 minuets of our first date I vary firmly told Rett “if your looking for a farm wife, that’s not me”. Funny how life works out.
I started this blog because I knew farm wives around the world needed encouragement and honesty as much as I did. The truth is, this life is hard. I know life in general is hard, but farming is in it’s own marriage/family struggle category. I remember a year ago talking with some other ladies about our farmers and our own struggles as wives. I was completely blown away that at the end of the day, we all struggled with the same things. I tend to think of myself as a lone wolf if you will, let’s be honest, there are not many farming wives out there that work alongside their husbands every day. But my eyes were opened that these two (one husband is a full-time farmer, the other helps during planting and harvest, neither wife helps on the farm) had the same struggles I had even though we all lived out completely different situations. Please hear me out here, I want this to be a place where we can all come together to support one another. I want to be as transparent as possible with you about my struggles, and the struggles of others. I want to take these, sometimes incredibly painful situations, and help us all to see the silver lining on the other side. Some of these articles may be a little dark, but please, please understand that at the end of the day, we are all in this together. We NEED one-another. We NEED to know that we are not alone.
A Farming Wife 